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The 22 Days Cleanse For Falling in Love With Yourself.
(February 16 - March 9, 2025).
Why?
Falling in love with yourself is of paramount importance. It is something of the highest significance and should be given the supreme priority. Why? For expansion and growing:
"What progress have
I made? I have begun to be a friend to myself."
SENECA
It is easy to acknowledge the good qualities of other people. I invite you to write down and send a letter to yourself telling the good things about you.
Words
Falling in love with yourself starts from within by creating and nurturing the most important relationship that you will have in your life: the relationship with yourself. And, as in any relationship, communication is critical. How are you communicating with yourself? The words that you tell to yourself are not just mere sounds, they define what you do and who you become. Your internal language shapes you, it is the compass that guides your life. It's not just about repeating random phrases, it's about intentionally choosing the words that will shape your character and your decisions. There is immense power in speaking to yourself with clarity and determination. Every day when you wake up you face a crucial election. Who I really am? It's not about what others expect of you but about the person you choose to be. Speaking to yourself with intention is the first step towards authenticity.
Words
What is it?
Contrary to common believe, falling in love with yourself is not about ego or selfishness. Falling in love with yourself is about protecting your personal peace so you can devote yourself to what you believe in. In fact, practicing self-care makes you more present and able to care for others.
What is it?
I am
Am I what I want to be or I am what the circumstances are dictating me to be?. If I really know who I am, no external circumstances can define me. This is not escaping reality but understanding that I am not my titles. When I discover that I am not a victim of the circumstances but the creator of my own story something inside me changes. I become more aware of my choices, more attentive to my habits, consistently acting in a way that aligns with them, even when faced with challenges or temptations to deviate; essentially, it signifies a stronger commitment to staying true to my own standards and moral compass.
I am
Discipline
Yes, muscles need to be trained to get stronger. This process is inevitable and it is because muscle strength increases when muscles repeatedly work against resistance. Muscles grow stronger only if you keep adding resistance. Self love works in the same way. Once you begun to be a friend to yourself, you have to use the most powerful training tool to express self-love, and that is discipline.
You probably read and heard many times that discipline is important in our lives, but nobody tells you why. Discipline is the highest form of self-love, because you are demonstrating the greatest level of care and respect for yourself, prioritizing long-term goals over immediate gratification, and essentially acting in your own best interest by consistently working towards personal growth and betterment. This training goes to all aspect of your life!
Discipline
Change
Many times in life happened that what we wanted and what we got were not in a state of harmony. We have to consider that in many of those situations what we wanted may actually have been available but unperceivable. We never find out that what we wanted and didn't get was only one minor shift in perspective. Not knowing, of course, that the reason why we didn't get it was because we just didn't know there was something more we needed to learn. Going along whit this, most of us spend our lives trying to change what is in front of us to suit the makeup of our inner environment, when all we need to do is change the way we think about what is in front of us and we will change the quality of our experience of it.
All learning is synonymous with change. If we refuse to change (adapt) the inside, then we are not learning what we need to know to experience something different in the outer environment. If there is not change on the inside, there will be no perceived change in the outside, thereby locking us into recurring cycles of pain and dissatisfaction.
Changing your mental environment is not automatic. And you, and only you are the only one who can guide your inner environment to change (adapt) to experience joy. When the time comes, self love means telling yourself "it is time to change to bring joy..."
Change
Redefine
Think about this. The world is constantly pushing us to pursue goals that are not ours, money, status, approval. However true success is not measured by what we accumulate but by what we build within ourself. When you tell yourself every day my success is internal, you are breaking other people's expectations, reminding yourself that the value of your life does not depend on external factors. You are owner of your own standards and seeking success outside of yourself is like filling a container with a broken bottom. This is not an excuse for mediocrity, but an invitation to change your perspective, to redefine success. For example, if you define success as the ability to stay calm during any physical or psychological chaos, then you will realize that you are already successful every time you take a step towards your best version. You begin to build a mentality where success does not depend on what others see but on what you feel when looking at your own reflection. This is not giving up on your dreams but pursuing them with a solid foundation. A success that is not born from within is fragile, but one based on your internal strength can resist any storm. This is pure self care.
Redefine
Control
We live a constant struggle to try to control every aspect of our life, the results, the people, the circumstances. The desire for absolute control is a source of suffering. When you cling to controlling the uncontrollable you only find frustration and this is the opposite of self care because you are causing unnecessary suffering to yourself. True power is not in controlling the exterior but in directing your interior. If you focus on what you can influence, you discover a peace that few experience. This is letting go of the burden of unnecessary control to walk free. And giving yourself freedom and peace is showing yourself self love.
Control
Say no
Breaking free through no. We have to understand the liberating value of no. This little monosyllable when used wisely has the power to transform everyday life establishing invisible but insurmountable boundaries and of preserving the most valuable thing we possess, our peace of mind. Saying no is not a rejection to the world but an affirmation of oneself. It is not only about saying no to other people but also to one's own negative thoughts and emotions, a conscious act of not letting yourself be carried by those thoughts and emotions. Say no to the external and the inner space. It is learning to consciously choose to reject what does not contribute and to create a space in which genuine priorities can flourish. It is an act of self-care in its purest form.
Say no
Constant
Often when we talk about self-care the conversation revolves around superficial rituals or fleeting indulgences – a spa afternoon, a comforting meal, or some screen time. I invite you to dig deeper, to go beyond those brief moments of relief and explore a more lasting dimension of well-being. Self-care is a constant exercise of the mind, body, and spirit. It is as essential as breathing. It is about cultivating inner strength. These are not abstract theories but the foundation for a meaningful life. Practicing self-care from this perspective will not only improve your personal well-being but will also transform the way you relate to others and the world around you.
Constant
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